Do you know what is funny to me? My time at grad school. Most of the time I thought grad school was a joke – I wasn’t paying for it and most of my classes felt like group therapy for teachers. I’m not knocking the group therapy sessions because we needed to talk about kids in gangs, twelve year olds having abortions, child abuse, breaking up fights, and every step forward we made at our schools meant we were also taking a few steps back. I wrote a bajillion reflection papers and met some truly wonderful people. I also had to take some science classes – Earth Science, Evolution, Physics, and Environmental Science. The only one I really hated was the physics class, but I fell in love with Brandon while learning about shadows and reflections. I also might have hated it because every time the professor would tell us to look up to the front of the class he would adjust himself. Every time. A professor was fired because she didn’t teach us anything about teaching special needs students. That same professor told me because I am a Cancer (like the zodiac sign) my moodiness will make me a horrible teacher. I spent two years learning to teach using cooperative learning strategies and I wrote my thesis on it too.
The grad school stories could just keep coming, but that really isn’t the point of this blog post. The point of this blog post is to talk about Tuckman’s Group Development Model (form, storm, norm, perform). It is probably the one thing from grad school that comes up pretty often in my life. Ha, and maybe a good KWL chart (what you Know, what you Want to know, and what you Learned). I always want whatever group I am in to get to performing and to be high-performers. Not for the A+ in group work, but because it feels fruitful. We have some friends that we have grown close to and are in the performing stage. I love serving, studying, and resting with them… and playing settlers or turning chutes and ladders into a drinking game.
These are our friends that pour into us. They don’t tell us they are too busy or that we are crazy for wanting to make serving a family hobby. They are really busy people, but never use it as an excuse. They have challenged me to not make excuses into lies that make me feel better about my priorities. We have been through change and now need to be really intentional on spending time together, but I (and Brandon) love you guys. I am looking forward to the spring camping trip :)
The first time Ophelia and the kids came over we talked about wanting people in our life that we do life with. You know, not just church on Sundays, but seeing each other during the week doing what we do as moms. That was almost three years ago. I think. I keep losing track of time and can’t remember these things anymore. Anyway, the C family is awesome and I love them!